Every Silver Lining Has a Cloud
Several people who are close to me have been dealing with recent serious health issues and/or losses of family members and friends. Having a great deal of experience with this myself, I know that it is important in the healing and grieving process to go through a whole array of emotions. In my own process of over a decade of what seemed like one death and loss after another, of people whom I loved so dearly and intimately, I looked at myself in the mirror and saw death looking right back at me.
I held on to feelings of victimhood, shame, guilt, resentment, confusion, hatred, anger, and deep, deep grief for so long, that when I looked at myself, man oh man, did I look bad. And I felt bad. And I was exhausted from holding on to my story. My adrenals were burned out, my weight was all over the place, and my moods were like a nauseating rollercoaster ride. Needless to say, I did not like who I saw in the mirror. Those events had become my identity. When we hold these negative emotions in too long, they have a seriously detrimental effect on our mental, emotional, and physical health.
We must name our emotions, own them, and then consciously release them if we want to experience balanced hormones, emotions, and lifestyle, in other words, the opposite of dis-ease in the body which is EASE. We must first have the awareness that they’re there, that they exist, and that they’re very real. Then we can let them go, little by little, to make more space in the body, mind, and spirit for vital life force energy.
I work with the paradigm of “adding in crowds out.”
This isn’t just a one-time thing, my friends. This is forever. This is daily. This is life.
It has been years of letting go and letting go some more by adding in moments of beauty, nature, reflection, forgiveness, community, teachers, music, dance, movement, rest, fun, writing, eating, gardening, prayer, qigong, yoga, bodywork, crying, laughing, singing, and sharing. Clean foods and herbs, relationships, meaningful work, faith and trust all help us to feel goooooood, alive, connected, on purpose and free.
We can honor being down when we’re down, play it out, take time to rest, to grieve, to really feel what we’re feeling, and then consciously, when the time is right, let go, little by little, to make space for more love and healing to come in. It is here where we can see the silver lining in the cloud.
Bodywork and coaching are so helpful in moving through times of transition while also adding incredible value to your maintenance plan for day to day life. Contact me for a free coaching consultation or $10 off a bodywork session.
Sarah Finkbeiner is a licensed massage therapist and certified health coach who delights in helping men and women step into the greatest versions of themselves through whole foods nutrition, visualization, bodywork, humor and love.